We Can Not Forget To Love Ourselves

We are committed to so much today and buttered out in such a thin layer that we are often exhausted at the end of the week. This is worrying. This habit does not give us time to rest and relax or enjoy some much needed “alone time”. Many of us have a habit of convincing ourselves. While we may think we are doing the right thing by being involved in so many things, putting ourselves and our needs first is what we really need to do.

It is so easy for us to feel that we just have to go to every single meeting, otherwise we will miss something important. Maybe if we miss a meeting, we will miss a promotion or be left out of the social circle of the workplace. What we need to do when we start to feel that way is to reflect on why we feel bad about it. If we attend every meeting we are invited to, it may indicate a lack of confidence on our part. We may find it difficult to say no to things. We should not feel bad for saying no to things when necessary. Other reasons why we may feel guilty for refusing a meeting are because we feel the need to please others or because we do not want to be alone with ourselves.

Social commitment and stress

Several studies warn that the number of social gatherings we attend today far exceeds the number our parents attended. Instead of taking advantage of free time and rest to disconnect from weekly stress, we actually add a disturbing amount of stress to our lives. This only happens due to lack of knowledge or the desire to match a group.

Making ourselves a priority

Who are we trying to satisfy with all these social responsibilities? Is it ourselves or is it others? Answering this question with total honesty can save us from a lot of stress and discomfort.

Sometimes you have to prioritize your life and just say no. We can not meet everyone’s expectations. If we just try to make everyone else happy, how can we be happy with ourselves? It’s not about isolating ourselves or moving away from our circle of friends. Rather, it is about maintaining healthy bonds, while also giving space to ourselves.

Leisure syndrome

We need free time to live a happy life and to reduce stress. Our brains have to disconnect for a certain number of hours and stop working so hard. Leisure activities are therefore a good alternative to rest and having fun. However, leisure time can also be a source of stress, insecurity, commitment and commitment.

The Dutch psychologist Ad Vingerhoets, a professor at Tilburg University, decided to analyze one of his personal problems. He was never sick, except on weekends. To conduct his research, he began to ask if other people experienced the same thing. He discovered that he was not the only one who experienced this. Other people also got sick in the summer, Christmas or on Fridays.

On the other hand, the psychologist Maria Jesus Gonzalez says that we are not dealing with an actual illness. She says that the medical field has not described the problem very well, and there is no specific treatment plan. But today we know that stress affects the immune system. This leisure syndrome is just another way of talking about anxiety.

To enjoy our free time, we must be realistic with ourselves and with the activities we can do. We must have a reasonable schedule and not accumulate activities without a plan. It is important that we do not forget how important those moments of rest and just doing nothing are. Commit yourself to yourself!