Gray Clouds Are Also Part Of The Beautiful Landscape
The sky, with all its interesting mutations, is like a sea that reflects the face of life back to us. At least as a canvas where we can see a type of similar or comparable phenomenon. In both dimensions (earth and sky; heart and emotions), in both the clouds and in our daily lives, there are stormy moments and days. It just depends on where you are. And also partly by your surroundings. What we are talking about is the sun and gray clouds that go wild when there is a storm.
On a rainy day, when the sky is full of gray clouds, it is beautiful when it is a little cold outside. And you’re under a safe roof and with a book to lose yourself in. Because sometimes other people’s stories can calm our own. The written word speaks to you and you tell them things. You want a dumb dialogue with them where you can be free. Because the characters will not judge or sell advice, except if it is to get laughter. And they all listen in their own way.
Days with gray clouds
You can probably remember more than one day when you thought, “ I would have been better off if I had stayed in bed. I would not have stood up if I knew. ” And the strange thing is that we never think about how we only appreciate the green light because there is a red light. Beyond that, it has to exist and you have to face it at some point. It may seem contradictory, but sometimes it is our little tragedies that make us appreciate our greatest successes.
When there is a red light, like a cold and stormy day, there is an opportunity for you to find yourself. The opportunity to close your eyes and breathe, to reflect on the stories of the people next to you. This way, if no one is giving back the time you spent waiting, why not use it and even enjoy it?
Emotions that find nourishment
Something happens to our emotions (gray clouds), especially those we see as negative and unwanted. We talk about sadness, anger and fear. Or about jealousy, hatred, disgust, and bitterness. The feelings that no one wants for themselves or for the people they love. But this is where one of our great contradictions saves us. There are emotions we do not want but often we nurture them. In this way, we are sure that they survive, or make them fine and give them the lead role.
Why do we do this when we think gray clouds are unwanted? Most of the time we do that because they give us a lot of “secondary benefits.” This means that you find that when you are sad, you need more attention. Or that when you are angry, the people around you become more careful about how they treat you. Let’s see: attention, careful treatment, benefits, who would not be seduced by those privileges?
Feeling gray
In addition, what child has not pretended to be ill to avoid going to school? Who has not pretended that they have felt something to get some secondary benefits? You may not have planned to do it or you may have done it completely deliberately (usually we do not). Of course, no one is so distorted that it does so on purpose. The fact is that the opposite happens when you try to get away from a boring day at school. What usually happens is that the emotions will actually start to exist when you first start pretending to feel them.
They will begin to exist or remain. In many cases, it will pretend to begin when the original feeling has disappeared. Just imagine a grandmother who has become a widow and whose family members have tried to alleviate her pain. This dear grandmother may feel that if she stops being sad to everyone, they will stop giving her attention and taking care of her. In this way, it is understandable that she begins to pretend that she feels this feeling to some degree. That way she keeps this feeling alive without realizing it… Because as we have said, it is difficult to pretend that you feel a feeling without being caught in it.
Energy and information, the power of gray clouds
So a healthy attempt to look into yourself can show you that you are in a similar situation that happened to your dear grandmother. But that does not mean that you should try to push away all kinds of negative emotions that you feel. This means that most of the time it is true that you feel sad and that you need love from other people. There is nothing wrong with getting it, because it will help you. And you are not or will not be a weaker person by accepting it.
This is one of the true adapting functions of negative emotions. The other has with information and with energy. Every emotion has these two elements. For example, anger will inform you that someone or something has hurt you. Energy will help you act if you think there is a need to do something about it.
In the case where you do not feel that you need it (here comes good emotional processing), you will have to find a way to get rid of the energy that moves into you. A way that does not hurt anyone, and especially not yourself.
