Breathe, Do Not Be Afraid. True Love Lasts
True love is born when related souls meet. It is secured when two mature and conscious minds are united in mutual respect, when they love each other freely and decide to take the journey together. Therefore, you must have confidence and not be afraid. Not so seeds of doubt and uncertainty in your heart. Authentic love will last, that which is beautiful, will take care of itself and will not cause pain.
We know that many people today do not believe in love because they have experienced great disappointment when they have tried it. People trust even less the word “duration”. How can we achieve that? We live in an age of programmed obsolescence. Everything has an expiration date. At the same time, philosophical trends such as that of Zygmunt Bauman, the father of fluid modernity, or the ever-challenging Slavoj Zizek with his strong ideas of social disillusionment paint a picture of a reality where nothing lasts and what transcends is not very positive.
So we are in a time where most of us feel socially dissatisfied and change is the agenda. In this environment, how can we trust that lasting dimensions still exist? How can we believe in stable feelings, in eternal love, in relationships that never throw in the towel?
Sir Francis Bacon said that people are willing to believe what we want to be true. To build something true, a happy, satisfying and long lasting relationship, we can not only trust love, but believe in it. We must invest our time, effort and love in the special and beloved person. What we love, we take care of, and what we take care of, is more likely to last.
True love lasts in times of crisis and neuroscience
Love in times of crisis is not easy. It is also not easy during financial problems. The millennial generation, for example, does not have the means or resources to be independent. They cannot build a stable foundation to have relationships with reasonable expectations for the future. It is not easy for the unemployed to enter a period of crisis. Unemployment can be a stage of insecurity and anxiety that affects a person’s self-esteem. Their life plans are directly attacked and negatively affect their personal development. All of these things affect the nuanced canvas that is a romantic relationship.
True love knows how to balance on a thin line. We know that life is not easy, but pure, unshakable love knows how to maintain balance in the face of adversity. It persists during external crises and especially during internal ones. True love does not give up even in these moments when you doubt yourself, you lose hope, your self-confidence , and your beliefs suffer.
A good partner, a conscientious lover and an exceptional person know how to be our center, our northern star, the brightest in the night sky, the one who leads us home.
Most of us can admit that we do not care about neuroscience’s explanation of love. That it is only the result of three ingredients: dopamine, oxytocin and norepinephrine. We do not care because the neurological reality does not blacken the magic of love or knowing how to love, not even a little.
True love: unexpected luck that must be appreciated
Stephen Hawking once said that love is much more complicated than physics. He said that sometimes we spend so much time looking at the sky that we forget that the most important things are here on earth. Whatever the reason, we neglect love, even when we know that the feelings are real and that we are with the right person. The reasons why we behave in this way are complex, varied and sometimes incomprehensible.
Love is strange, there is no doubt about it. But as Haruki Murakami says in Blind Willow, Sleeping Woman , it only appears once in a while. Finding someone who just understands our mood, someone we can communicate with perfectly… It is unexpected luck that not everyone gets to experience.
So, if we suddenly get this amazing chance, why not do the best we can with it? Why don’t we plant our feet firmly on the ground, center hearts, and lift our minds to a level where maturity and responsibility reign?
It’s definitely worth it. He who saw us when we were invisible to all, deserves everything. The person who wants to be with you without needing you will take care of you as you deserve. It will be a lasting flame, which is patient but alive, which allows time and happiness to forge a long lasting love.
