Five Signs That You Are Boycotting Yourself

The most important sign that you are boycotting yourself is that  you almost never achieve what you intend to do. In many of these cases, it is you who sets up the obstacles that prevent you from moving forward.

At some point, we have all boycotted ourselves, and we have even been aware that we did. However, this is not common. In fact, it is far more common for us to act against our interests without being aware of it, for us to act in a way that at first glance seems perfectly reasonable.

In the same way, we are only able to justify many of our actions after we have actually acted. We tend to hide our real motivation behind one that sounds better – one that we take from the consequences of our behavior.

The main characteristic of boycotting yourself is that with every step you take, you move further away from your goals. You ask yourself why you do it, but you fail to come up with an explanation that is convincing enough. It seems that there is always “something” that prevents you from reaching the goals you have set for yourself.

There are various reasons why people boycott themselves. One of them is the fear of success or because they think they do not deserve it. There are also cases when they do not really identify with the goals they have set, so they unconsciously look for excuses for not achieving them.

Signs that you are boycotting yourself

1. You want to do everything yourself

Many people think that they can not trust that someone else can do a certain task in the way they would have done it themselves . Others hardly trust that they can give tasks to other people. By not trusting anyone but themselves, they end up taking on responsibilities that are not really theirs – the kind they can easily delegate to or share with others.

There is an African proverb that says ” Maybe we can go faster alone, but we can go further together “. Maybe you’re right: there are some tasks that no one can do as well as you. However, if you do not give them the chance, they will never be able to show you the opposite or learn to do the tasks in the future.

2. You always think you’m right

This is when you  find it impossible to find something positive to say about someone or their work. It is also impossible for you to agree with their views. You can feel that you are always right, and that’s just the way it is. In fact, as far as you know, you’re always right.

In order to see the views of others, you must put an end to these unshakable thoughts. If you judge everything by a predetermined criterion, you will obviously think that no one else is right. These kinds of attitudes deprive you of the valuable contributions that others can make to you by showing you their perspective on things. It will hinder your progress because you only see things from a single perspective.

3. You leave many tasks unfinished

This is a clear sign that you are boycotting yourself. There is no doubt that you will always find a way to defend yourself when it comes to why you have left so many projects unfinished. It is not difficult to rationalize and justify your tendency to give up. You want to avoid disagreements and bad feelings, so sometimes the easiest thing you can do is put an end to it.

Your tendency to leave things half-finished will ultimately affect your goals. Not just because you have not achieved a specific goal, but because all the waiting and unfinished work will simply become the norm. Thus, you will always be tempted to do the same with future projects.

4. You neither accept nor value your achievements

You may feel that you have no right to succeed. Oddly enough, you are even responsible for reversing exactly the things that make you successful. You do it through your own way of interpreting your achievements. When you achieve something, you set it aside as something unimportant, and by doing just that, you lose your motivation.

It is as if you feel that you can only achieve things that are not really that valuable or useful. If they were valuable, you would not have been able to obtain them. This becomes a vicious circle: you are both the abuser and the victim at the same time. Such behavior will only satisfy and encourage neurotic impulses.

5. “Victimization”, a sign that you are boycotting yourself

Sometimes we hinder our own growth by giving ourselves less value and by making ourselves the victim. How in the world can I do that when I do not have certain abilities or resources? We hide behind our shortcomings and refusals and refuse to leave our comfort zone.

Victimization, making ourselves the victim, is a strategy we use to try to justify doing nothing. Those who feel “victimized” look for excuses instead of motivation. They do not do this consciously: it is a completely unconscious act. It is true that you can sometimes get secondary benefits from this, such as a sense of security, which is why we continue to behave in this way.

The important thing here is to be aware of all the signs that may indicate that you are boycotting yourself. They will give you clues as to why you are not getting what you want. Being aware of behavior patterns that can harm us in this way can be a good starting point for a more fulfilling life.