Blowing Treason Out Of Proportion

For many,  betrayal is unforgivable. It leaves gaping wounds and deep scars. In fact , it has even become taboo. Often we can blow treason out of proportion so much that we refuse to talk about it because the betrayal spoke for itself. Nothing can justify it, and nothing can make it better.

However, this prevents you from seeing important nuances. Sometimes, for example, you can see something as betrayal when it really is not. Or maybe you judge too harshly when others are inconsistent, when what they have really done is only to disappoint you, not hurt you deeply.

You have to be objective and mature to put betrayal in place. Of course, it’s not nice when someone disappoints you. However, the disappointment that comes from it often has more to do with you than the other person’s actions.

To blow treason out of proportion

What is treason?

The word treason can appear when someone goes against what they have said or breaks a deal. Etymologically, the word “traitor” (English for traitor) comes from the Latin word traditor, which means “a person who leaves someone to the other side”. Thus, it has military connotations, and basically means to hand someone over to the enemy.

On a daily basis, however, we use the word to refer to times when someone who was apparently on your side suddenly says something or acts in a way that goes against your interests. You thought they were on your side, but suddenly you realize they were not.

However, the concept of “being on your side” is very ambiguous. It is as vague as “being against you”. Being on your side can mean a million things. It can involve not saying anything about your mistakes or simply respecting who you are.

In the same way, being against you can involve something like pointing out your shortcomings or mistakes, or more serious things like trying to drag you down, emotionally speaking. However, it can also mean not meeting your expectations.

Agreements and fraud

When you have a platonic or romantic relationship with someone, its boundaries are not always clear. Both parties tend to assume that there are agreements and obligations between them,  but they are often not talked about. Basically, the idea is that if they have a positive relationship, they will not end up hurting each other.

But as we mentioned earlier, the whole “they hurt you” thing can be very subjective. The most typical example is betrayal between romantic partners.

The question that arises here is:  Does their romantic pact mean that they must maintain these feelings regardless of the circumstances? This may be their intentions, but it is also a difficult goal to achieve.

This is partly because emotions go through cycles. In some cases, they can lean in a positive direction. Other times, they may start to fade away or even go in a negative direction.

There is nothing safe here, no matter how much someone will tell you that it is. Maybe you maintain the bond you have with each other due to commitment,  but that does not mean that your feelings have changed.

Many people feel upset and betrayed when their partner’s feelings have changed. The real problem here, however, is who the problem lies with. Is it in the person who has simply begun to feel things in a different way and acts accordingly, or the person who expects this to never happen? In other words, are you blowing the “betrayal” out of proportion?

Blowing treason out of proportion: Facts and circumstances

Many will say that they understand if the feelings of their partner change. At least they understand it as long as the person is sincere and express this change early. However, this is rarely the case. If one person is in love and the other is no longer in love, it is difficult for the first person to accept just that. Especially if your partner has fallen in love with someone else.

This is also the reason why people often hide it from their partner. In reality, they are not trying to deceive their partner, they just do not want to feel guilty for inflicting pain on the other person or for the storm they can unleash. Of course, there are also manipulative, cynical people who play with other people’s feelings, but fortunately these are in the minority.

You can help prevent this by being much more flexible when it comes to betrayal and what you see as betrayal. In so many cases, the circumstances are more important to you than the actions themselves. You may be blowing treason out of proportion. In fact, it may be that the other person simply does not live up to your expectations or does not do what you hoped for.